Taking Decisions To Divorce Wisely, Avoid Momentary Emotions

JAKARTA - The decision to divorce is one of the biggest decisions in life, and often involves complex emotions. Unfortunately, many couples are in a hurry to take this step when they are in an emotional condition, without considering the long-term consequences.

Decision-based on a moment of emotion can result in regret at a later date, both for the couple themselves and their families. Therefore, it is important for couples to take time, think carefully, and consider all aspects before deciding to separate.

Psychologist Nirmala Ika, M.Psi, suggested that married couples not make decisions to divorce in an emotional state. On the other hand, they must reflect in depth whether divorce is really the best solution to their situation.

"The point is not to make an emotional decision, although sometimes we know there are problems that are already difficult to fix. If divorce is the best choice, it must be decided with a clear mind," said Nirmala, a graduate of the University of Indonesia, as quoted by ANTARA.

Nirmala explained that an impulsive divorce decision, particularly in an emotional condition or unilaterally, could have a negative impact. Ex-partners are at risk of experiencing stress, depression, and prolonged conflict with their families.

Therefore, he advises partners to consider all possible consequences before making a final decision. "Couples must think about the impact on both parties, both emotionally, financially, and socially," he added.

If necessary, couples who consider divorce are advised to consult professionally, such as psychologists or marriage counselors. Professional services can help couples evaluate their marriage situation objectively and find the best solution, whether it's maintaining a relationship or deciding to separate.

"If a couple decides to divorce after considering all the factors, they tend to be more prepared to face the consequences of the decision, including when telling the family," explained Nirmala.

Nirmala emphasized the importance of honesty when conveying decisions to the family. However, if honesty is full of difficulty, the couple can choose to provide a simpler and easier to accept explanation, as long as they don't hide important things.

"It's better to be honest, because honesty helps families understand the situation. However, if it is difficult to be fully honest, convey more acceptable reasons without causing confusion," he said.

Nirmala also reminded that couples who want to divorce need to avoid emotional acts from the start. This is important to ensure that the divorce process can run well, without additional conflicts that actually complicate the situation.

In certain cases, family members can act as mediators to help divorced couples communicate with extended families. This aims to prevent misunderstandings that often arise due to uncontrolled emotions.

The decision to divorce is not easy, but with careful consideration, professional consultation, and good communication, couples can face this process more calmly and wisely.

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